Dear Abby: My husband broke up—40 years later, he’s still bitter

Dear ABBY: When my husband, “Sid”, was a young man, his mother died by suicide. A few years later, when his maternal grandparents died, his mother’s two siblings inherited his grandparents’ estate. Other family members have commented that it seemed wrong for Sid and his sister to be stripped of their mother’s share of the estate. Because Sid and his sister were young adults, they did not have enough confidence or support to ask their aunt and uncle. Their father was out of the picture

Forty years later, this is still a source of pain for Sid and his sister. They think they have been removed on purpose, while their closest relatives act as if nothing is wrong. Is there any way to approach the family to resolve this pain? –– SADNESS FOR AIDS IN NEVADA

DEAR SAD: I highly doubt that ship sailed 40 years ago. However, I am not a lawyer. Your husband and his sister should ask a lawyer who specializes in wills, estates and trusts this question to see what exactly happened then and if anything can be done now to change it.

Dear ABBY: I will turn 18 in six months. I know I should be happy, but to be completely honest with you, I’m scared of growing up. I don’t feel like I’m ready to grow up and leave my childhood behind. What should I do? What can I then? – HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Dear Dissatisfied: What are you afraid of specifically? All people do not mature at the same rate. Some individuals take until they are over the age of 21 to take on the responsibilities of being an adult. Others are ready at age 18, provided they have already been given some responsibilities by their parents. The insecurities you are experiencing are things you should talk to them about. You can also discuss this with a teacher or trusted counselor at school. If you do, you may realize that you are not alone in your feelings

Dear ABBY: I’ve been unlucky in love since I started dating, and I’m feeling like I can’t put myself out there again. My last relationship looked promising – I even saw marriage on the horizon – but my partner cheated on me and everything fell apart. Now I’m afraid. This is just the latest in a long line of bad relationships. How can I continue dating if I feel so hopeless? Am I not cut out for the “married with 2.5 kids” life? – FAILURE IN OREGON

Dear Failure: Considering your mindset, I’m not sure you should be dating right now. Your time might be better spent trying to figure out what went wrong in each of those failed relationships, because your problem might not be the type of men you’re attracted to, but the ones you’re attracted to. to.Â

If there are common denominators between those men in your past, it would benefit you to know what they are so you don’t get hurt again. In the meantime, catch up with friends and activities you enjoy. It is an effective way to fight depression and can also give you an opportunity to make some new acquaintances.

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